tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-89966588188274662582024-02-20T22:21:21.616-05:00First Things FirstFirst Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.comBlogger109125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-29240158688952508132011-05-23T20:00:00.003-04:002011-05-23T20:00:03.153-04:00Sex Has Consequences<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDTeg-iswUt7d1ZIYwkscF53a7IYVLUITecfzWftYfjVoOsIdsTSS_JReU4Kml_ZoWRRL18202XoASGC5S8ZNxXRZxFMyb9D1a2y1tGGNGh5jz-nUlNygFQ6nHuBEHgdp-LjMC-WEqTQE/s1600/IMG_1561.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjDTeg-iswUt7d1ZIYwkscF53a7IYVLUITecfzWftYfjVoOsIdsTSS_JReU4Kml_ZoWRRL18202XoASGC5S8ZNxXRZxFMyb9D1a2y1tGGNGh5jz-nUlNygFQ6nHuBEHgdp-LjMC-WEqTQE/s320/IMG_1561.JPG" width="320" /></a></div><br />
I have watched parents be vigilant about vaccinating their kids against diseases. I have seen parents spend hours plotting out activities and experiences they want their children to have in preparation for "success" in life. I have witnessed the agony some parents go through making decisions about their child's educational path.<br />
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However, there is one area in life that I have seen many parents shy away from and that is the area of talking to their kids about sex and healthy relationships. A lot of parents would prefer that someone else take on that task, which is somewhat surprising considering how interested they are in their children being successful in life.<br />
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Consider this:<br />
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<ul><li>21,000 teens contract a Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) every day.</li>
<li>Nearly one in four sexually active teens are infected with an STD.</li>
<li>Many of the STDs are symptomless yet cause all kinds of health problems including infertility and even death.</li>
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When it comes to children having children, what are the chances that a child born to a teen mother will grow up in poverty? If the mother gives birth as a teen, isn't married when the baby is born and doesn't graduate from high school or get her GED, the chances of her child growing up in poverty is 80 percent. If none of these things happen, the chances of a child growing up in poverty is 6 percent.<br />
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Isn't something with such serious ramifications for your child worth talking about?<br />
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Your child deserves to know the facts about sex because Sex does have consequences. It can't be a one time conversation. It has to be ongoing learning just like any other subject. <a href="http://firstthings.org/page/newsletter/teen-pregnancy-prevention-month">Here are some tips for talking to your kids. </a><br />
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Don't put it off. Your kid's future is at stake.First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-66438429632434344212011-04-22T20:00:00.001-04:002011-04-22T20:00:03.745-04:00Running AwayMany of you have wondered aloud to me if I ever sleep or just chill out. My husband will testify that I do chill, I do know how to play and that I usually get 7ish hours of sleep a night (at his strong urging.....he says I'm not very pleasant when I don't get enough sleep. Imagine that??????? No, never mind, don't go there) <br />
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Last weekend Jay and I did something really fun. We ran away to <a href="http://www.winshape.com/">WinShape Retreat </a> to participate in their Romantic Adventures weekend. We had a blast. It was content rich, but not heavy. Shawn and Christina Stoever are insightful, fun and funny!<br />
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There was just the right amount of down time and with a 26,000 acre playground at our fingertips there was plenty of room to get away by ourselves. Naps were a requirement! The food was amazing and the hospitality was over the top.<br />
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We all had the option to participate in the wilderness adventure course. Too much fun!!!!<br />
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Overall a great weekend! We were gone for 2 days, but it honestly felt like we had been away longer. I highly recommend doing something like this. Too much tyranny of the urgent going on in our lives today. Not enough nurturing of the relationships we really treasure.First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-2491147838034593252011-03-27T21:12:00.000-04:002011-03-27T21:12:29.564-04:00It's Here<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRL4izYpnByIySUdNod1QcATXZOyoa5cvU7_XpMD6duCz1nLbUmskN0BUNQyOP3nWX_BDQPs9lMKGb9vTDnMeq84wMjEL1fIX3lhsLvss5x_VuM7GgAWJwUkGHPGqfrleH5ebRz4ARqyg/s1600/IMG_1033.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRL4izYpnByIySUdNod1QcATXZOyoa5cvU7_XpMD6duCz1nLbUmskN0BUNQyOP3nWX_BDQPs9lMKGb9vTDnMeq84wMjEL1fIX3lhsLvss5x_VuM7GgAWJwUkGHPGqfrleH5ebRz4ARqyg/s320/IMG_1033.JPG" width="320" /></a></div><div style="text-align: center;">The birthday girl!</div><div style="text-align: center;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Well, it is finally here. Our daughter turned 18 today. We were laughing because the night I went into labor was very much like last night. It was very rainy, we were watching March Madness and it looked like Duke was going into overtime when I told Jay we needed to go to the hospital. He jokingly looked at me and said, "Now, are you sure?" Just a few hours later Ashley was born and our adventure began!</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Throughout the celebration there were lots of comments made about turning 18 and finally being an adult. We laughed a bit about those comments, but I did remind her that 18 just means she is legal. Being an adult is more about how you act - you know - more freedom means more responsibility. I got the whole eye roll thing......again. "I know mom" Lol!</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Loved being able to celebrate with family. Lots of fun stories!!!! We are looking forward to seeing what God has in store for Ashley in this next stage of her life.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div style="text-align: left;">Happy Birthday Ashley!!!! </div><div style="text-align: left;"> </div><div style="text-align: left;"> </div>First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-56297955585905116112011-03-24T19:30:00.001-04:002011-03-24T19:30:00.579-04:00How Time Flies<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzvQPctxuv0PnU9HhthBXYgemfPahDSnOR1sOF3tUnZY-nSh68kEjtngo_iWGbRycOPBP7a9jC8TkBg20zbT93-7HmhcAWZMrpCtD_LWfRvaBFv3rjhbZDpKsu1EVPIp36fM4yRsqi1jw/s1600/IMG_0457.JPG" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><br />
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On this date 18 years ago we were still recovering from the blizzard of '93 and I was VERY pregnant, thinking I had one month to go. Little did I know that our daughter would be born exactly 3 days later. I think if I had known I was so close to delivering when the blizzard hit I would have been a nervous wreck.<br />
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Ashley arrived early Saturday morning, March 27th perfectly healthy and seemingly ready to rock and roll!<br />
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I can't believe it has been 18 years. People said time would fly, but honestly there were times I did not believe them - like the times it felt like WWIII when we were trying to get our little strong willed four-year-old to go to bed or the gazillionth time she looked at us rolled her eyes and acted like she thought we were from another planet or the time she told us she was ready to live life on the edge!<br />
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We have laughed A LOT, shed tears, spent hours talking, headed out many Saturday mornings to ride horses and had adventures too numerous to mention throughout these 18 years that have produced great memories.<br />
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I would have to say the good times far outweighed the bad times and I am really proud of the woman our daughter is becoming. It is fun to see the peace in her eyes and her confidence grow.<br />
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</tbody></table>While I can't believe I am old enough to have an 18 year old, I am looking forward to this celebration!First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-50265898777625835752011-02-18T19:30:00.000-05:002011-02-18T19:30:00.411-05:00Extreme Makeover<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGvI-E5yD_AO7CTfKKiQza4cJ8LvAGEacfemVhrIYL-SdEmqYS0qlFuvDGbUnItOuAW8cIUC4ODUs036PMVNufIzNTRnxu5LUjKa7k3UT_fJtXlo_c-BCf807ReQ8k_PePq9YTeEZ0x00/s1600/IMG_0773.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjGvI-E5yD_AO7CTfKKiQza4cJ8LvAGEacfemVhrIYL-SdEmqYS0qlFuvDGbUnItOuAW8cIUC4ODUs036PMVNufIzNTRnxu5LUjKa7k3UT_fJtXlo_c-BCf807ReQ8k_PePq9YTeEZ0x00/s320/IMG_0773.JPG" width="320" /></a></div>Meet Missy Thompson from KMT Creative and Emily Willard with Vision Homes. KMT has taken care of all of the media and PR for this build and Emily's husband Jason and his partner Craig Smith are the builders. These are just two of the mighty army of volunteers who have been part of the Extreme Makeover.<br />
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This has been an incredible opportunity for our community. Watching people come together - people who often are competitors - and work side by side to accomplish something in one short week that should take months has been overwhelming.<br />
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Everything for this build has been donated from the food to feed all of the volunteers to the materials and labor. I think this brings out the best in people and shows us what we can truly accomplish when we work together.<br />
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My hat is off to the Extreme Makeover Home Edition producers, design team and crew. You all truly are a class act. I am grateful to live in such a wonderful place where people will come out and volunteer to make life better for someone else.<br />
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Just like Go Red Day promotes awareness of women and heart disease or the NFL football players wearing pink to bring awareness to breast cancer, this week has been set aside to bring awareness to the importance of healthy marriage in our communities, states and nation.<br />
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Research consistently indicates that almost 90 percent of Americans plan to marry at some point in life. But just like with the symptoms of heart disease or breast cancer, many don't know the signs and symptoms of unhealthy relationships nor do they have the tools necessary to build a healthy marriage.<br />
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There are many specific things we can do to prevent heart disease, the key is putting them into practice.<br />
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It is no different with marriage. There are many things all of us can do to build a healthy marriage - but we have to move from all talk to action. <br />
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<b>What have you done for your marriage lately?</b><br />
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It is never too late to take a class and learn new skills.<br />
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Here are some ideas for <a href="http://firstthings.org/page/resource-center/for-married-couples/stoking-the-fire-of-passion-in-your-marriage">Stoking the Fires of Passion in Your Marriage</a><br />
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Here's to a passionate Valentine's Day and a new emphasis on stoking the fire of your relationship all year round.First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-37541330067869265982010-12-17T20:00:00.000-05:002010-12-17T20:00:02.460-05:00Its Really all about our ChildrenThere have been many newspaper and magazine articles about the latest marriage research released by Pew Research and The National Marriage Project. Both show that we are seeing a serious decline in marriage and a huge increase in the number of children born out of wedlock in lower and middle class America. While some may espouse "To each his own" when it comes to whether people choose to marry or have a child out of wedlock, these choices will seriously impact you, me and everybody else over time.<br />
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The consequences for children growing up in homes without their two married parents are enormous. Before you hit the comment button, hear me out. I am not against single parents. I AM for what is best for children and what we know based on decades of research is children who grow up in a home with their two married parents do better in every area of life.<br />
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If you are thinking not my problem, this doesn't impact you because you have an intact marriage, think again. Believing that what other people do behind closed doors doesn't impact anybody else is like living with your head in the sand. We are all impacted on a daily basis by the decisions people make for example, if your child is friends with someone whose parents divorce or your child decides she wants to date a boy who has grown up without a father figure what does this mean for your child? Chances are you are going to be answering questions about divorce and wondering if this young man has any idea how to treat your daughter since he may never have had a healthy male role model in his life.<br />
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There are many other examples I could give you about how this problem impacts you in every area of life including your bank account.<br />
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This is why the work of First Things First is critical. People of every walk of life need to understand that marriage and childbearing go hand in hand. If you are concerned about child well-being we need you to be part of the army of people who are willing to talk about the importance of healthy marriage and its connection to raising healthy children. First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-76772317333959717572010-11-21T20:30:00.001-05:002010-11-21T20:30:00.936-05:00Reasons Why Marriage is RelevantI read with interest the media headlines about the new Pew Study on marriage. "4 in 10 Say Marriage is Irrelevant," "We're Just Not that into Marriage," "I Don't, Twenty-Somethings in New York aren't the marrying kind," and "More Americans may Believe Marriage is Obsolete" are just a few of the headlines across the country.<br />
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So if you take that at surface value you might think that people really aren't into marriage, but if you dig into the research what you actually find is that Americans are very into marriage - so much so that we are the most marrying, divorcing and re-marrying country in the world.<br />
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While perception is reality for people, it doesn't mean their perception is necessarily accurate. <br />
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Studies indicate that marriage is declining for those on the lower rungs of the socio-economic ladder, this doesn't mean that those of lower socio-economic means do not desire to marry. They do! (Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood before Marriage by Kathryn Edin and Maria Kefalas)<br />
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Interestingly, the Pew study shows that marriage is still the norm for those with a college education. <br />
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It might surprise you to know that more than 80 percent of high school seniors consider marriage an important part of their future plans.<br />
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Research consistently shows that almost 90 percent of Americans plan to marry at some point in their lives. <br />
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A major change noted by the Pew study indicates that people are more willing to consider other types of living arrangements a "family." However, research indicates that there are certain benefits that only marriage provides for people. While one might assume that these benefits would transfer to those who live together or other family forms, the research shows they do not (The Case for Marriage by Linda Waite, University of Chicago and Maggie Gallagher).<br />
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There is robust research that shows marriage has a positive impact on health, wellness, finances, community development, economic development, education, men, women and CHILDREN. Children who grow up in married parent households are less likely to suffer abuse, more likely to do well in school, less likely to experience depression or be involved in risky behaviors. These children are also less likely to grow up in poverty. Of families living in poverty only 6 percent are married parent homes with children under the age of 18 compared to single parent homes with children under the age of 18 at more than 40 percent.<br />
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So why might people delay marriage or believe it is obsolete? Perhaps it has something do to with relationship skills. People assume if they are in love they can make marriage work. OR, if they have never seen marriage work, they assume they can't make it work either. Hence the increase in living together.<br />
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People who assume that love will carry them through often experience a rude awakening when they find out they don't feel so loving towards their mate.<br />
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There are lots of couples rushing to the alter after only knowing each other for a few months - while there are exceptions to this rule - it is highly unlikely that you can really know a person in a short amount of time - thus these couples only a few months into their marriage begin wondering if they made a big mistake.<br />
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Additionally, people today are entering into marriage with unrealistic expectations such as, if you are my soulmate we should never disagree, and my spouse should be able to meet all my needs.<br />
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No great civilization has ever survived without marriage and family. <br />
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Marriage does matter to our country. <br />
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Perhaps people would think more highly of marriage if they were more successful at it. Maybe we ought to encourage couples to slow down and do those things we know can help them be successful in their marriage over the long haul like - taking at least a year to really get to know one another before they commit to each other and taking a premarital education class to learn the skills to help them have a healthy marriage. <br />
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First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-35058154916585055692010-10-13T20:00:00.000-04:002010-10-13T20:00:02.935-04:00Are you Askable?Where did I come from? What is sex? How did that baby get in that lady's tummy? Why does her bottom look different than mine?<br />
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For many parents, these are show stopping questions that make their face turn red and cause them to be at a loss for words. Isn't it interesting that you the parent, the one who has been charged with raising a precious child can have no idea where to begin a discussion about this topic and yet the media and a bunch of people who don't even know your child feel very free to speak about sex and to give advice to your child?<br />
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Whether we like it or not, if we don't step up to the plate and talk to our kids about sex and what a healthy relationship looks like, somebody will and it might just be someone who doesn't have very good intentions.<br />
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October is national Let's Talk month. Parents are encouraged to either begin or continue conversations with their children about sex and healthy dating relationships. Research shows that in spite of eye rolling and statements like, "This is so embarrassing" young people do want to hear from their parents about these issues.<br />
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For tips on talking with your child about sex and healthy dating relationships visit our <a href="http://firstthings.org/page/newsletter/are-you-an-askable-parent-2">website</a>. First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-9677391557484949032010-09-02T13:14:00.001-04:002010-09-02T13:42:58.081-04:00Chattanooga's Great Date Night<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvOH9BfB_aG0i9gaYGd2P3RYWZqBBqC5L4Tb_LIDZ84k3g5X-aKx8d1GgvpdRCHR4HbMssdBRoIV8Q_koDqjzKX-twgLBnEyOuz9D59LPLTFCJkcOfEHityanSCt3tq_tOTQgp3K9eAP8/s1600/greatdatenight_splash_FIX_FULL.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="273" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvOH9BfB_aG0i9gaYGd2P3RYWZqBBqC5L4Tb_LIDZ84k3g5X-aKx8d1GgvpdRCHR4HbMssdBRoIV8Q_koDqjzKX-twgLBnEyOuz9D59LPLTFCJkcOfEHityanSCt3tq_tOTQgp3K9eAP8/s400/greatdatenight_splash_FIX_FULL.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><br />
Chattanooga's Great Date Night is coming October 5th to the Chattanooga Convention Center from 6:45 pm to 9:00 p.m. Go to <a href="http://firstthings.org/">firstthings.org</a> to get your <b>FREE</b> tickets! <b>Great door prizes</b> including c<u>ruises, weekend getaways, free Chik-fil-A, and more! You must be present to win!!!</u>First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-76283884172969587152010-07-15T19:24:00.001-04:002010-07-15T19:24:00.200-04:00A Marriage GetawayJay and I recently had the opportunity to experience a marriage adventure with three other couples. The intent of the week was to rest, relax and rejuvenate our marriage.<br />
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Let me tell you what we didn't do. We didn't <span class="goog-spellcheck-word">watch</span> television<b> at all </b>for an entire week nor did we get on the computer and for the majority of the time our cell phones were in the off position and stowed away so we weren't tempted to check email or make phone calls. We really didn't talk about work or seek to solve the problems of the world.<br />
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Here's to more romantic getaways! <br />
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This is our sweet Rozee sleeping on her pillows in the family room.<br />
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Ashley with Rozee at Christmas.<br />
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Today we had to put Rozee to sleep. :-( When Ashley was 4 she picked Rozee out to be her puppy. Back in the day Rozee could catch a Frisbee in mid air and fetch two tennis balls at one time returning to her master with both tennis balls in her mouth. That was quite a sight! One time she went to school with Ashley to show off her talent in front of all the kids. They LOVED her.<br />
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Rozee was infamous for going totally crazy when my husband came back through the door - even if he had only been gone for a few minutes. She would dance around in circles and jump up and down until he took her outside to play. <br />
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She tolerated many dress up sessions with Ashley and allowed her picture to be taken in some pretty funny outfits!<br />
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We always joked that if anybody tried to break in the house Rozee would lick them to death!<br />
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At age 13 Rozee had definitely slowed down, but she still liked her morning walk and never wanted to be left behind if she thought people were headed outside to play.<br />
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So, today was a very sad day for our family. However, we have a lot of great memories of her that will last a lifetime. She was a wonderful member of the family! First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-87584023144226172102010-05-31T07:17:00.000-04:002010-05-31T07:17:12.468-04:00Freedom CostsSitting here this morning thinking about how blessed I am to live in a free country. We live in an amazing place. Yesterday during our worship service was devoted to honoring those who have served and those currently serving to protect our freedom. It was very emotional.<br />
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Last night we watched a fantastic Memorial Day concert on PBS. So many amazing stories of service and sacrifice. My heart hurt as I thought about all the families impacted by loss suffered due to war.<br />
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I pray I never take for granted the life I get to live thanks to our military.<br />
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Thank you to all the men and women who have served and are serving and thank you to the families who do their own tour of duty when a loved one is deployed.First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-21512259483102009482010-05-24T20:33:00.000-04:002010-05-24T20:33:29.957-04:00A Day on the Set of CourageousI spent the day on the set for the new movie from Sherwood Pictures (the creators of Fireproof). I can sum it up in one word, AMAZING! Courageous is set for release in 2011 and trust me, you won't want to miss it! The actors were impressive and the cinematography was incredible.<br />
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Then Stephen Kendrick gave us an update on the movie and talked with us about the scene they would be shooting this morning.<br />
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This afternoon we ate lunch at Pearly's, an Albany landmark. YUM! We toured through the sports complex that the church has built for the community to use. Absolutely incredible. We headed back to the set to spend some time with the cast and crew and then it was off to the church to see some clips from the movie. All I can say is WOW!!!!! Action packed, good humor and storylines we can all related to. I cannot wait for this movie to be released. You can find out more at www.courageousthemovie.com and you can "like" the movie at facebook.com/courageousthemovieFirst Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-74773191875686572082010-05-02T19:00:00.001-04:002010-05-03T10:35:57.478-04:00Social Justice IssueI think teen pregnancy is perhaps one of the greatest social injustices of our time.<br /><br />In Hamilton country 690 teen girls became pregnant in 2007. While Tennessee is one of the few states that continues to see a decrease in teen pregnancies, there are still far too many teens getting pregnant.<br /><br />A recent study published by the Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy indicates that:<br />a child born to a teen mothers has a<span style="font-weight: bold;"> 27 percent</span> chance of growing up in poverty. If the teen mother is not married at the time of the birth of the child, which most of them are not, the chances of the child growing up in poverty increase to <span style="font-weight: bold;">42 percent</span>. If the teen mother does not graduate from high school or get her GED (Two-thirds of teen moms <span style="font-weight: bold;">do not</span> graduate from high school) the child will likely spend <span style="font-weight: bold;">64 percent</span> of his life in poverty.<br /><br />In contrast - if none of these things happen, a child's chances of growing up in poverty is <span style="font-weight: bold;">only 7 percent. </span><br /><br />Playing around with sex is like playing with fire, except the person playing fire isn't the only one who gets burned. We have a lot of babies raising babies. This is a huge problem.<br /><br />I think the best news is there are things we can do to make a difference.<br /><br />Teens can break the cycle and choose abstinence.<br /><br />Parents can talk to their teens about the real facts surrounding teen pregnancy. For example,<br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">8 out of 10 teen fathers do not marry the mother of their child.</span><br /><br />Sarah Brown, CEO of the National Campaign encourages parents to engage their teens in conversation about the following:<br />Babies don't cement a relationship, they often put tremendous stress on them.<br />Babies need to be raised by adults, not children who are still trying to figure things out.<br />If it happens, it happens is no way to begin a family!<br /><br />As parents we really have a responsibility to talk with our kids about these issues - even when it feels awkward and uncomfortable and they complain. They may seem smart, but the truth is when it comes to life issues they still need a tremendous amount of guidance.<br /><br />Raising children in this day and age in more complicated than ever! As a mom of a 17-year-old I am constantly aware of all the craziness of the culture and the messages that are being sent about sex and dating. My goals have been to make sure she has accurate information so she can make wise decisions and to help her see how her decisions today will impact her tomorrow and for years to come.<br /><br />There are a number of great websites with helpful information. <a href="http://talktofriends.org/index.php">Talk to friends</a> , <a href="http://www.thenationalcampaign.org/">The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy</a> and <a href="http://www.liveonpoint.org/">Live on Point<br /></a>First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-52818462522033818002010-04-23T18:30:00.001-04:002010-04-23T18:30:00.271-04:00Prom - How Times Have ChangedI remember prom when I was in high school. All the girls anxiously waited to see if someone was going to ask them to prom because if you didn't have a date you didn't go.<br /><br />This year as prom time rolled around, our daughter started talking about the pros and cons of going with a date to the prom. The conversations went something like, "If someone asks you and you say yes then people assume you "like" this person and you are dating. Also, that means you are stuck with one person for the entire evening - like you have to entertain them. I think I would rather go with some friends and be able to just enjoy the evening."<br /><br />So, that is exactly what she and a couple of her friends did. They made reservations for dinner at a nice restaurant. My husband was their chauffeur for the evening. He dropped them off for dinner. Picked them up when they called and delivered them to the prom. When prom was over he took them to an after-party and then onto <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Krispy</span> <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Kreme</span> for hot donuts!<br /><br />I love that it was an option for her to just go with some good friends and have a great time. Based on all the chatter afterwards I am pretty certain she will carry fun memories of her prom night into the next chapter of her life.First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-91589671707629736852010-04-13T18:46:00.008-04:002010-04-13T20:20:03.088-04:00The Empty NestOur daughter is getting ready to graduate from high school. In the last month or so I have been asked questions like, "How are you doing with all this?" or "Are you guys ready for the empty nest?"<br /><br />Truth be told I think we are doing pretty well. There are a lot of things we intentionally decided to drop or not do when our daughter was born. I think both of us are looking forward to picking up some of those things and investing more time in some newer interests like sailing.<br /><br />I'm sure things are going to be very different and it will be an adjustment. Guaranteed the house will be much quieter and my husband won't be walking around behind our daughter reminding her to pick up her shoes, books, purse and various other things and take them to her room. But - - I think we are going to be okay.<br /><br />When our daughter was a newborn a wise friend told us to be sure to take good care of our marriage because even though there would be days when we thought 18 would never come, it would arrive and we would be back to just the two of us. Lately I've been asking myself where the time went and I'm glad we heeded her advice.<br /><br />So for all you guys who are already emptynesters, what's your best advice?First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-59948148859280090942010-04-05T18:30:00.001-04:002010-04-07T14:22:09.940-04:00Are you a Happy Wife?The other day I ran across this website, <a href="http://www.happywivesclub.com/">happy wives club</a>. I am definitely a happy wife. In this day and age when we mostly hear about how unhappy people are it was refreshing to run across this site.<br /><br />Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that my husband and I never have disagreements or tough times. I'm just saying <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">overarchingly</span> I am a happy wife. I think part of it is my mindset, but I give a lot of credit to my husband who is very intentional about taking good care of our relationship. That is a real blessing.<br /><br />Are you a happy wife?First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-37787613112622058482010-03-10T19:00:00.001-05:002010-03-10T19:00:00.427-05:00Oscar Night and Sandra BullockI have to confess that I don't usually watch the awards shows, but this past Sunday I watched the Oscars. I was really pulling for Sandra Bullock to win an award for <span style="font-style: italic;">The Blind Side</span>. <br /><br />I watched the Barbara Walters special beforehand. In her interview with Bullock, Barbara commented that Sandra's parents were married for a very long time. Then she asked Sandra what she thought her mother would say about her nomination if she were still alive. Sandra responded that her mother would be mortified if there was a tear shed during her acceptance speech. She also said that her mom always worried that her kids would be normal. Her mother encouraged them not to be like everybody else, but to be original. What a gift.<br /><br />I have to say I thought Sandra Bullock was a class act. Her dress was stunning. Her humility was clearly evident along with her sense of humor. Her acceptance speech was gracious. I loved the way Sandra talked about her mother, how her mom clearly protected her, taught her the importance of hard work, that everybody is important no matter who you are or where you come from and how to love.<br /><br />I got kind of emotional when they showed her husband looking at her with adoration. You could so clearly see how proud he was of her.<br /><br />When your children are grown, what do you hope they will say you taught them about life?First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-24536748210698991602010-03-04T07:43:00.005-05:002010-03-05T19:18:00.038-05:00Prom Night<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwumIeULhT2QjbB1VXdXohEMJ1C3Iq84nrXet3_17xJis1b1oHNz7Eg1TWvVd7aGiLYn124qZniVaJybvlAhQUZPn8FpFosG-YiSjGJdFi41867dvLvP8jE04vjK9ki4cNfeMxab_PmmE/s1600-h/PromNight411Billboard.jpg"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 356px; height: 162px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjwumIeULhT2QjbB1VXdXohEMJ1C3Iq84nrXet3_17xJis1b1oHNz7Eg1TWvVd7aGiLYn124qZniVaJybvlAhQUZPn8FpFosG-YiSjGJdFi41867dvLvP8jE04vjK9ki4cNfeMxab_PmmE/s320/PromNight411Billboard.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5444778251375147026" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><br />Do you remember prom night? Most people would agree that there have always been crazy things that have happened on prom night. While this night is considered a rite of passage, there are some things that just don't mix well with prom. Alcohol and drunk driving are a given, but what about getting a hotel room? I have racked my brain to try and figure out what good could come from juniors and seniors in high school having a hotel room? The other thing that doesn't work well is not having a real plan for the evening. It's just too easy to follow the crowd when you don't have a plan.<br /><br />As parents our goal is to help our kids make this a real night to remember, not because of bad things that happen, but because of the great time they had. So, how do we do that?<br /><br />Be clear about your expectations.<br /><br />Ask for an itinerary including where they will be, who they will be with and what they plan to do after the prom.<br /><br />Discuss the risks of drinking/drinking and driving and remind them that if they do this and they get caught chances are good they will lose their license for a year <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">never mind</span> the potential to hurt innocent people in the process.<br /><br />Consider hosting a prom after party or a midnight breakfast at your house with no alcohol.<br /><br />Encourage your teen to attend <a href="http://talktofriends.org/classes/">Prom Night 4-1-1</a> so they don't have a 9-1-1 on prom night.<br /><br />One of the best ways to show your teens you love them is to set limits and help your teen understand the limits are intended to make sure that the best laid prom plans are played out in a safe environment.<br /><br />What do you remember about your prom night????First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-18663551763671014302010-02-25T18:00:00.001-05:002010-02-25T18:00:02.990-05:00Dads and Daughters<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdSy2b7unXqZi0kDZn0W9UQLQ_9v-fIqCp8kxmO8IDQp5gMMW3Cc2C9xJO8M0k_BN9upjb9vZ1pR0Ed4rFdoQE6uRxf8kGfqzaz85D4EGCJa5VrIzMuZDQHWuMruviko6B5Bvb7OhXpBc/s1600-h/IMG_7930.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdSy2b7unXqZi0kDZn0W9UQLQ_9v-fIqCp8kxmO8IDQp5gMMW3Cc2C9xJO8M0k_BN9upjb9vZ1pR0Ed4rFdoQE6uRxf8kGfqzaz85D4EGCJa5VrIzMuZDQHWuMruviko6B5Bvb7OhXpBc/s320/IMG_7930.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5442170247988257074" border="0" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHfs8vFn3OUuZ1YqnDh1CI_z-arFbC6nezrJ8E16qM8MUbCVHNPQzheMVZSobQdGtDJesvwbgOoGlUy21EzV45g_tywPc_OvDI4VYH_d9V645pRgf9-VjT4TqOr1RBZzqEuhK8TRswDZ0/s1600-h/IMG_7928.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiHfs8vFn3OUuZ1YqnDh1CI_z-arFbC6nezrJ8E16qM8MUbCVHNPQzheMVZSobQdGtDJesvwbgOoGlUy21EzV45g_tywPc_OvDI4VYH_d9V645pRgf9-VjT4TqOr1RBZzqEuhK8TRswDZ0/s320/IMG_7928.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5442170243973014498" border="0" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiL7z3YLS7W7-6uI1LHpMtDJj6uYyU6gf32_F-lODgrm2dJ5_td6ym8FIjYehE4jFTSkt3VqA4IwJNX9a3U6eAGnvcmkygT0phPnc-4xkGhVJM-tC9_zTsf6iJ7zVdcbcuccMujFuE8B0A/s1600-h/IMG_7931.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiL7z3YLS7W7-6uI1LHpMtDJj6uYyU6gf32_F-lODgrm2dJ5_td6ym8FIjYehE4jFTSkt3VqA4IwJNX9a3U6eAGnvcmkygT0phPnc-4xkGhVJM-tC9_zTsf6iJ7zVdcbcuccMujFuE8B0A/s320/IMG_7931.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5442170232907887698" border="0" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiXir3uuE5i7LdBY7bZTl4HenG_Xfjygt336wBdx_LNthihpY35swim_irr6Q2zABJvz5Wm_2KFkeDgVs4oAVQ5g68CpGUQCt0qmL49rIyd4piEOsX1py6JhQwVrb3TKJze_EYNXet-BFA/s1600-h/IMG_7948.JPG"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiXir3uuE5i7LdBY7bZTl4HenG_Xfjygt336wBdx_LNthihpY35swim_irr6Q2zABJvz5Wm_2KFkeDgVs4oAVQ5g68CpGUQCt0qmL49rIyd4piEOsX1py6JhQwVrb3TKJze_EYNXet-BFA/s320/IMG_7948.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5442170229451583266" border="0" /></a><br />It was tooo much fun watching all the Dads bringing their daughters to Father Daughter date night at Chick-fil-A. Girls young and old were stylin' as they stepped out on the town with their dad. The looks on their faces were priceless.<br /><br />Linen tablecloths, long-stem roses for the daughters, and candles on the table set the tone for a great dinner with dad.<br /><br />Once dads and daughters were seated, someone came and took their order. While they were waiting for their food, there were questions on the table for them to discuss like what is your favorite movie, who is your best friend or who is your favorite athlete and why?<br /><br />I loved watching the interaction between the girls and their fathers. Many of the them were very young. As they were being seated I watched dads help the girls take off their coats. Then they pulled out the chair for them or helped them get situated in a booth. What a great lesson in how they should expect to be treated by a guy.<br /><br />I loved hearing all the chatter at the tables. I didn't see dads on cell phones or their Blackberries. They were totally focused on their daughters.<br /><br />Special memories were made that night that will never be forgotten!<br /><br />SWEET!!!!!!!<br /><br />More pictures from <a href="http://www.facebook.com/FirstThingsFirst?v=photos&ref=ts#%21/album.php?aid=156432&id=43822356265">Father Daughter Datenight </a>First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-35919152965706648952010-02-04T18:00:00.000-05:002010-02-04T18:00:00.228-05:00If you're not loving your spouse, who is????<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_zhoTVwPqr-zL9Q0EqyJe-0BSIavRgW8C2a8SImDlDDJWPf36lRg1hG0qPh3wZpL-KSo16Xc_01Cs49TH1sPe-AYXnfy7E5j7S4xzEgGTojmzM3Qo1isjgj1ES4mMI-yZ8QWHaGCKSj8/s1600-h/IfYourNotLoving_Billboard2.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 146px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh_zhoTVwPqr-zL9Q0EqyJe-0BSIavRgW8C2a8SImDlDDJWPf36lRg1hG0qPh3wZpL-KSo16Xc_01Cs49TH1sPe-AYXnfy7E5j7S4xzEgGTojmzM3Qo1isjgj1ES4mMI-yZ8QWHaGCKSj8/s320/IfYourNotLoving_Billboard2.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5434469325451342258" border="0" /></a><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFjItJYoU4Xuz4X1sEU6e3kk7rDgVE5M26W1hGw9HjEmL9Q6iGT_VfyvSgrhRYU-zyNPuBN8bi3aUKgI_fX1I2QqGWkjVQhe_1-ZCWGMHni4aK9wbhE_fWiI2Ht6RD9UcMIjD3evAdwbg/s1600-h/IfYourNotLoving_Billboard.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 146px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgFjItJYoU4Xuz4X1sEU6e3kk7rDgVE5M26W1hGw9HjEmL9Q6iGT_VfyvSgrhRYU-zyNPuBN8bi3aUKgI_fX1I2QqGWkjVQhe_1-ZCWGMHni4aK9wbhE_fWiI2Ht6RD9UcMIjD3evAdwbg/s320/IfYourNotLoving_Billboard.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5434469183335857858" border="0" /></a><br />So, on a scale of 1-10 (1 being in the pits and 10 being off the charts great) how well are you loving your spouse? I think I would give myself an 8.First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-25916582513304668202010-01-31T20:00:00.001-05:002010-01-31T20:00:00.389-05:00Love, Affection and AppreciationCan't believe it is February already. The month of the Super Bowl, the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Daytona</span> 500 and of course Valentine's Day. For the next couple of weeks we are going to be inundated with ads for spa treatments, romantic dinners, chocolate, flowers and more. This is a good thing, but I wish it weren't just in the month of February. Romance, affection and appreciation are a good thing all year round.<br /><br /><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">When's</span> the last time you wrote a love letter to your spouse or a note of appreciation to your parents or a friend?<br /><br /><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">When's</span> the last time you took your spouse out on a date or took the time to sit down with a good friend over a cup of hot tea or coffee?<br /><br />Whether you are married.... or not, young or old, Valentine's Day could be a great time to kick-off a year of intentional love, affection and appreciation.<br /><br />At a loss for what to do? Here are a few ideas:<br /><br /><ul><li>Hand write a love letter - you can actually get a Love Letter kit from <a href="http://www.thinkmarriage.org/">www.thinkmarriage.org</a></li><li>Schedule time each day to actually talk with your spouse</li><li>Take time to meet a friend for lunch</li><li>Tell the people you love "I love you"</li><li>Plan a creative date for your spouse - even if you can't afford a babysitter, plan an in-home date</li><li>Recreate your favorite date from the past</li><li>Purchase a bouquet or a romantic gift basket from <a href="http://firstthings.org/page/newsletter/flower-fest-2">Flower Fest</a> and support the work of First Things First</li><li><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgo6Xj9EN0Fh4AtclKeWHuISTpbr2uMe-wFnFUzhLgEl4yr2pyaWE0HlcTzi8wvm2Anlm0HhLf0BdqWCqjhClvUHh42hEMTcZIgq4p2O_-EnQaNcc6bWmqwj7ORo7wnN-jm-nKPyKIMQaQ/s1600-h/datenightunwrapped.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer; width: 214px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgo6Xj9EN0Fh4AtclKeWHuISTpbr2uMe-wFnFUzhLgEl4yr2pyaWE0HlcTzi8wvm2Anlm0HhLf0BdqWCqjhClvUHh42hEMTcZIgq4p2O_-EnQaNcc6bWmqwj7ORo7wnN-jm-nKPyKIMQaQ/s320/datenightunwrapped.jpg" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5433002866982550306" border="0" /></a></li></ul><ul><li>Take time to play with your children</li><li>Give your spouse the day off and don't hold it over their head later</li><li>Schedule a couple's massage</li><li>Take a walk holding hands - research actually shows that a woman's blood pressure goes down when she is holding the hand of her spouse</li><li>Do that thing that your spouse has been asking you to do for months</li><li>Watch the Super Bowl with your spouse even if you don't like Football, you don't have to say a word, he'll enjoy just sitting should to should with you.</li></ul>Lets help each other be creative. What would you add to the list???? Lets keep the list PG13 please. :-)First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-65269801733950793952010-01-30T19:58:00.006-05:002010-01-30T20:25:01.872-05:00I Love Snow!!!!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjqCrSHfutD4zI7c_Gzku2k2BVgS017ROUP57M4FRaPSBD5g0nddVlq9KMtVugN6ME22mXVfr6VW1zt8mpE9a2Hi4tvQcnL7eiB4zx5_OLrK_LRVJj99f8_nweSy4nipEIMHD-3p2k43Gg/s1600-h/IMG_7859.JPG"><img style="margin: 0pt 10px 10px 0pt; float: left; cursor: pointer; width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjqCrSHfutD4zI7c_Gzku2k2BVgS017ROUP57M4FRaPSBD5g0nddVlq9KMtVugN6ME22mXVfr6VW1zt8mpE9a2Hi4tvQcnL7eiB4zx5_OLrK_LRVJj99f8_nweSy4nipEIMHD-3p2k43Gg/s320/IMG_7859.JPG" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5432702514859161394" border="0" /></a><br /><br />Finally, a real snow. My daughter is almost 17 and this is the first REAL snow storm we have had since she was born. Woo <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Hoo</span></span>!!!<br /><br />I love snow because it forces all of us to slow down. Having worked for a hospital at one time in my life, I know snow makes life crazy for some folks. But, I still think it is nice every once in a while to get an unexpected break...and not because you are sick.<br /><br />I have talked to people today who lost power or can't get out of their driveway and nobody is really complaining, they're just making the best of it. I think it is times like these that actually bring people together. The other thing I LOVE about snow is it brings out the kid in people. Snowball fights, building a snowman or sledding - nobody gets "too old" to do those things.<br /><br />Got any good snow stories????First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8996658818827466258.post-77493678012626363612010-01-22T20:00:00.001-05:002010-01-22T20:00:00.654-05:00Raising ChildrenYesterday someone shared with me about an elementary age little girl who showed up late to school and she was crying. She wasn't crying because she was late to class. She was crying because she was hungry and she had missed breakfast at school because her bus was late. When her teacher inquired about who helped her get ready in the morning she said no one because her mother never gets out of bed before she leaves for school.<br /><br />Did you know that a child born and raised outside of marriage will spend an average of 51 percent of his/her childhood living in poverty?<br /><br />In contrast, a child born and raised by both parents in an intact marriage on average will spend only 7 percent of his/her childhood living in poverty. A child raised by a never married mother is more than 7 times more likely to be poor than a child raised in an intact marriage. (National Longitudinal Survey of Youth 1979 - 2000)<br /><br />Children who grow up without a father are more likely to drop out of school, become addicted to drugs, have a child out-of-wedlock or end up in prison.<br /><br />There are many children, black, white and Hispanic, who are essentially raising themselves. When I think about my teenage daughter trying to raise herself - even though she thinks she could totally do it - I know the truth is she isn't ready.<br /><br />My heart is heavy for our children. Sometimes tackling this issue feels overwhelming, but the reality is First Things First exists to do exactly that.<br /><br />If we aren't loving and raising our children - who is????First Things Firsthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18263971586977452889noreply@blogger.com2